I had to go to
the circuit court last week to take care of my dad's affairs in probate. The woman who helped me was so kind and
caring. She made small talk with me and
the process was much less painless than I had thought it would be. I thanked her for making it simple and she
told me I should thank my dad.
The process
was painless until I got outside. As I
exited the building, an overwhelming feeling of loss came over me. Every last thing that I do is exactly that,
the last thing. I am taking care of
things for my dad for the last time and the gravity of the moment was intense.
Melancholics
don't need glum and dreary days to feel pensive. It was a beautiful day and the sun was
shining. It had actually been dreary
earlier on, but the skies opened up and the sun shone down as I approached
Williamsburg (was there a hidden message there for me?). As I approached my car, I passed a statue of
a Native American. I put some of my
stuff in the car and I wanted to stretch the moment out longer. I wanted to sit in the sunshine, soak it in,
sit in my sadness and let it wash over me for a few moments longer.
So, I went
over to the statue to read the plaque underneath. It was Powhatan, whom the plaque said was
responsible for the survival of the first settlement at Jamestown (do you think
his ancestors might be pissed?). Here
was this statue, life-sized, standing above all who would come within its
vicinity. A man whom we read about in
history books, at least if we're from Virginia.
He played an integral part in survival for many who would go on to take
advantage, abuse, and steal from his tribe and many others, or at least pave
the way for more to come who would do those things. But I digress. Powhatan marks that spot and that statue will
be there for a long time.
The contrasting
picture was my visit to the cemetery later on.
As I approached the crypt where my parents are laid, the flowers were
gone. There was no evidence that just a
week and a half ago that crypt had been opened to receive its second
guest. All that was there was a plate
which still hadn't been completed.
Names. Dates. A verse.
A cross. Praying hands. A saying.
That's it. No statue looming over
all who would come near. Not description
of what these two people had done.
It seemed a
little unjust to me. I didn't know
Powhatan. How could I have? He lived way before my time. But I did know my mom and dad. They had an influence on me and on many
others. Could we have said more on that
plate than what we did? Could we have
given people a better picture of all that they had done?
Then I began
to think, that's not the job of a grave plate.
That's my job. That's my legacy,
actually, it's their legacy living through me.
I will not forget. I will
remember. I will live out that legacy
and let others know the contributions that they made in my life, and so will
others. A statue is tall and cold,
lifeless, unspeaking. I am living and
breathing, proclaiming, exemplifying what was invested into me by my parents.
There is no
statue, but there is me, there are my children.
We are the monuments, the memorials of my parents as we live our lives
through what they taught me, taught us.
My parents invested into people for the sake of Jesus Christ. I invest in people for the same reason. Christ has made a difference in my life, he
made a difference in the life of my parents.
It would be a crime for me not to proclaim something that has had such a
significant impact on me. I am a living
legacy. If you want to know my parents,
get to know me. I can tell you stories,
or better yet, I can live out what they passed on to me. That's much better than anything a statue can
do.
You nailed it, Jon. When our parents pass, we wonder, "Who is left? Who will carry on what they once were, or what they once knew?" Then the realization comes that it's us.
ReplyDeleteAfter my aunt passed 3 years ago, I realized that that whole family (her, my dad, my grandparents)was gone. And that's when I started embarking on my genealogical journey, to keep them (and all those before them)...not alive, but still a very active memory.
My 2 cents...